Why Did He Say All Those Nice Things to Me and Then…

Develop an Attitude of Positive Neutrality

What the heck is positive neutrality? This is a protective dating strategy I developed for myself while looking for love and today share with clients. The basic idea is that you take a “wait and see” position on any man you date. Instead of getting your hopes up, practicing Positive Neutrality prevents you from getting prematurely attached to a guy before he has proven himself as “The One” for you.

 

How Positive Neutrality Works

When you catch yourself thinking too much about a guy or falling for him fast, say to yourself, “He’s nice, but we’ll see.” Yes, your date might look promising and you want to be positive. But you also need to stay relatively neutral and objective to avoid getting emotionally attached before you know his intentions or if you are a good match. This really works!

 

Dating Advice that Helps You Stay Objective

Here are a few other options to help you be smart about falling too quickly for a man:

• Remember talk is cheap and words don’t necessarily have true meaning behind them
• Pay attention to his actions, not his words, to better understand his intentions
• Date more than one man at a time before you become exclusive to avoid putting all your eggs in one man’s basket so to speak.

 

Try “Who Is Next?”Thinking

My last suggestion for getting over a man who says nice things and disappears is to ask yourself, “Who is next?” That single question can help you face the future with optimism. There are loads of single men out there and many are quality guys who want a relationship. You just have to meet enough men to find the right one for you. So, the next time a guy disappears on you, don’t despair. Face the future knowing that you are one man closer to the love you want and deserve.